Motivating only the others?

How is it. that we are doing a great job motivating others but are doing so miserably with ourselves?
We are doing amazing giving everybody else striking advice in difficult times of their lives, telling them to pursue their dreams, to reach for their stars, to live up to their true potentials, to take their lives in their own hands, to realize that achieving true happiness is actually only their own responsibility.
But once we turn the focus on ourselves we suddenly forget all our wise words, our empowering, energizing, motivational words. Suddenly we think we shouldn't reach for the stars but rather try to be content with what we already have, that if we live up to our true potential doesn't really matter as long we just live up to others expectations, that our lives are being shaped not by ourselves but rather by those who are with, those who took over responsibility to care for us.
Suddenly we believe that those who agreed to care for us are also responsible for making us happy, for providing us with the live we always dreamed of, for filling our hearts with that unlimited peace we all strive for.
But if we fail to achieve happiness ourselves, how can we think that anyone else could manage to do that?
Suddenly we start to resent those who we thought would make us happy, we feel let down by them for failing to perform as we hoped for.
But isn't that really unfair?
how can we make others responsible for our own happiness?
responsible for somehow, magically providing us with a live we didn't and still do not have the courage to create and shape for ourselves?
We must realize that the only responsibility for our lives, and for how we shape and live it. lays only in our own hands!
It is only our job to reach for the stars, to do not be afraid what others might think or feel about us, to have the courage to go out there and show the world what we got, what we can and what we will do with our lives in this world. Inshallah!

If we fail doing so, what will we become?
We will resent everybody around us for not making us happy, for not proving us with the live we wanted, for not doing this and not doing that...
Because guess whats happened?  We successfully managed to drop all our responsibility and throw it on those around us, somehow hoping that they would be able to take it...
That is called irresponsible and unfair, and that is not something i want to be and not something I want to be hold accountable for.

So? What to do about it?
Take responsibility for your own self, for your own live and happiness,
have the guts to reach for the stars,
listen to the things you are telling others,
do not step back until you have fully taken all your rights,
until you have truly unfolded and lived up to your potential!
Show the world that you are not afraid,
show the world with what Allah has blessed you with,
show the world with which right Allah has empowered you,
show the world how far you can come and how much you can reach due to Allah's mercy!

Be brave,
Be bold,
Be strong,
You can do it, Inshallah!